You may not know this, but I’ve always been a rebel. I was a rebel when I didn’t own a 2 piece bathing suit in high school. I was a rebel when I didn’t kiss boys on the first, second, or third date. I was a rebel when I committed to remain abstinent until marriage. Most of my peers will not agree with this statement, but I’m going to claim it anyway:
Modesty is one of the most attractive qualities. Ever.
I don’t say this to condemn the way other people express themselves, or to pretend like I always present myself in a positive light. I don’t, trust me. I’ve worn outfits that I hope will attract guys. I’ve flirted with people out of curiosity, not genuine interest. I’ve posted pictures on Facebook just to see if people will “like” them.
But, the more I learn about God and myself… The more my heart longs to create a different world than one where I have to look “hot” to get a man’s attention. Yes, we notice how other people look, but I don’t want to be loved for my body or my face. I want to be loved for my heart. If a guy wants to date a girl simply because he likes her body– he’s going to choose a girl whose body he can see. I don’t want to date that guy and I don’t want to be that girl.
Modesty is often equated with dressing conservatively, but I think the definition runs deeper. To me, modesty is showing the world that you don’t need to dress or act a certain way to feel loved. You and I are both already deeply loved. We just need to wait for someone who’s attracted to the most wholesome, genuine version of us. Someone who appreciates understated confidence. Someone who believes in true love and wants a romantic, amazing, fun-filled, Godly relationship.
I may sound like a prude, but I just think– the more I save of myself, the more I can give to the one God saved for me. I am so excited to meet the person God has picked for me! I hope we’ll become great friends. I hope we’ll laugh together, pray together and study God’s word together. I hope we’ll hold hands and write each other sweet notes. I hope I can encourage him when he struggles in faith, and that he’ll do the same for me. I hope we’ll be servants together.
Do you want to know the best thing I’ve learned this year? Until I’m madly in love with Jesus, I’m not ready to be in love with anyone else. But, when I am ready… I know God will lead me to the best ending possible.