It’s easy to spot the bad guy in Disney movies– he’s the one with an evil grin and a dark cloud hanging over his head. In life, it’s not so easy. The bad guy usually has perfect teeth, great shoes, and a wicked sense of humor.
My first boyfriend seemed like Prince Charming when we met. In short– I was very insecure and desperate for love, and he said all the right things. I think I would have latched on to anyone who said they loved me and called me beautiful. My fairytale quickly turned into a nightmare.
Nearly a year later, I found myself trapped in a destructive relationship. Bruises and tears were only the outward symbols of the twisted, controlling mess that my life had become. I was emotionally isolated from friends and family. I convinced myself that he cheated on me because I wasn’t good enough. He told me that no one else would love me. And I believed him. So I stayed.
Until the day I didn’t stay. With every ounce of courage I had left, I walked away. I slowly gave pieces of my heart back to God and, in His faithfulness, He put it back together.
You may wonder why I write about this. The answer: because I’m happy. I am so ridiculously, sunshine, high heels, and pink cupcakes happy. I don’t need someone to tell me how beautiful and special I am. I don’t even need a Prince Charming to tell me that I’m loved. I am surrounded by love and grounded in faith. There is nothing more beautiful than that.
The girl I was 5 years ago would have never believed this kind of joy was possible. She didn’t realize her worth beyond her boyfriend’s opinions. She didn’t know if she could stand alone. If you relate to my experience, please have hope and never stop fighting for the life you desire. If you think no one else will love you– you’re wrong. If you think you’re not worthy of respect– you’re wrong.
You are a daughter of the King of Kings and that makes you a princess. You were born to shine! And sometimes, sweet princess, happily ever after is just you, having the courage to stand alone. All the angels in Heaven will cheer you on as you walk away, in grace, toward something better.